![]() By its very definition “slowly/unhurriedly” is not my style. There is nothing slow and deliberate about me. Those who know me well, know I have suffered ADHD my entire life. Staying grounded is a very hard part of this transition and breathing is key.įinal Step: Move slowly and deliberately. I think I have spent more time this summer breathing and watching the birds and squirrels than I ever have in the 18 years I have been here. And, as we exhale, take in all that is alive and special of this place. Ginger lilies near our deck, fresh cut grass, the salt air. And, while breathing, take in the beauty around us, the smells we take for granted that are native to our current home. Maybe it should be the first step in all this because it truly is the most important. Those who, during this hard time, have been there to ease our anxiety, keep us company and raised a toast or two while wishing us a speedy farewell, even when they don’t want us to go. Not a comfortable position to be in but, trust me, we have graciously accepted and appreciate the help of those around us. Oooh, you mean rely on others, take hold of a helpful hand, ask for help and take it? Definitely not the easiest step for a couple of doers and fixers. Step 4: Try and reach for a branch or person’s hand to pull yourself out. Not the easiest of steps but it is checked off to the best of my ability. Arms up – praise God, wave for help, and try not to touch the things you don’t have any business meddling in. Step 3: Keep your arms up and out of the quicksand. Step back – reassess is always solid advice. Sometimes that step back allows us more objectivity, a little distance, a new perspective and a change in momentum. Easier said than done, but OK, I think we have done that too. Step 2: Try and take a few steps backwards. We have downsized, de-personalized and staged our house and lightened our load for a quick escape. We have tossed the extra furniture, sifted through our belongings from artwork to clothing to nick knacks. A friend of mine, just the other night laughed and said if we have a party it will need to be a BYOC instead of a BYOB – why? C is for Chair. Make yourself as light as possible – toss you bag, jacket, and shoes – whatever is weighing you down. I literally googled what to do if you are stuck in quicksand. They say when sinking in the quicksand the only thing to do is lay back and don’t fight it. ![]() Deeper into despair, deeper into a quagmire. If I struggle to try and change things it seems that I just sink deeper. ![]()
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